First, this is not a ‘naughty’ post, this is actually a serious thing.

It’s no news that sex is one of the most performed action in this world.

Sex is a dance, a natural dance where you find your rhythym. Your rhythm doesn’t have to be the same with someone else’s. Sex is the rawest form of passion where there are no “nos” and no barriers, you can do whatever you want (so far your partner is cool with it). And this gives rise to KINKS”. So, I figured it’d be nice to address them.

Now, kinks… what are kinks? I’m sure most of us would know what kinks are but just incase you’ve never heard of them before (which I doubt);

A kink is like a ‘bend’ or ‘twist’ in one’s sexual practices. According to English Dictionary, a kink is a “peculiarity or deviation in sexual behaviors or tastes”. A kink is a taste for unconventional and non-traditional sexual practices.

A kink to me is the ultimate expression of your sexuality because it’s you bringing out your innermost fantasies and desires to the surface, yo. To understand kinks better, you’d have to be a lot open-minded and try not to judge. But wait, why should you judge?

Now look, it is OKAY to have kinks.

Yes, it is. It’s really okay to have kinks. It’s okay to practice your kinks if you have a consenting adult partner or partners that are alright with them and enjoy them as much as you do.

You’re not weird for having kinks. Always remember that everyone is NOT wired the same way. Don’t let any close-minded person make you feel otherwise. I have come across a lot of articles written by people that have very unsatisfactory sex lives because of the shame of a particular kink and it’s often pitiful. So, this post goes out to anyone that has a certain kink and is often shy and don’t know how to go about it (and everyone, really).

To really enjoy a kinky sex life, there are 3 things I think would be super helpful;

1. BE COMFORTABLE.

The first step to enjoying your kink is to come to terms with it. As comfortable as you are in your own skin, be comfortable about your kinky side. Don’t be ashamed of it (doesn’t mean you should go around telling everyone in the world about your kinks).

If you are one that enjoys being spanked, accept it and be comfortable with it.

If you enjoy dominating or being dominated, accept it and don’t lie to yourself about it.

Don’t beat yourself up or hate yourself about having sexual preferences that differ from the norm unless it involves something psychologically disgusting like dead, decaying bodies or innocent little kids then get help fast, bro.

2. COMMUNICATION

A huge way to get your kinky on and make your fantasies a reality is through communication. Yes, I know, this sounds very basic, but you will be surprised by the mumber of couples that DON’T talk about these things.

How would you know if your partner is interested if you don’t reach out? It’s very necessary for partners to have conversations about their sexual desires. Partners should always try to tell each other their turn-ons and turn-offs. For instance, if you enjoy a little bit of BDSM or if you have a thing for catsuits, you should tell your partner (it’s often advisable to settle with open-minded people) and who knows, he/she might just be interested. Even if they are not interested, at least, they would know what can drive you insane with pleasure and who knows? They might just get interested overtime.

3. BE OPEN-MINDED

Open-mindedness is one of the most attractive qualities in a person to me. There’s nothing like having a conversation with an open-minded person who can relate to most things and won’t judge the ones he/she can’t relate to.

Being open minded is very, very necessary in having a fun-filled kinky sex life. Be open to trying new things, who knows, you might just like them a LOT. Don’t be so rigid about sex. It doesn’t have to be missionary on the bed, at night with the lights switched off all the time. It’s okay to deviate and try new sexy fun things with your partners.

Play dress up, have role plays and just explore. I mean, who says freaky isn’t fun? Who says it isn’t alright to add a little spice to your sex life? Remember, sex is the only natural act that permits you to tap into your raw, primal instinct. It’s an act where you can be yourself in your most natural form and don’t have to worry about most things

Spice up your sex life and be happy.

Enjoy. Have

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